Sunday, September 19, 2010

i yam what i yam


I find myself at an…odd place in my life. 50 years old (ack), divorced, mother of a 19-year-old daughter in her second year away at college, living in a totally new place. It doesn’t feel like others my age are really my peers – as for the most part they have partners, children
still at home, houses and mortgages, LIVES.  I feel like I’m starting life all over again! Ha.

For the first time in my life I am living totally alone, supporting myself (no more child support, waaah!). I was never really the typical suburb Mom…and now…I don’t really know *what* I am! I just yam what I yam, I guess. I find myself drawn to “younger” interests – music, art, movies, fashion. This perplexes my daughter and some of my friends. But…what are you gonna do?? I don’t “pretend” to be younger anymore than I want to pretend that I feel older than I do!

I’m a 50-year-old work-in-progress with my whole life ahead of me.


  1. And that's great. I'm a lot older and I still don't know for sure what I want to be when I grow up :)

  2. Isn't that funny, Iris?? We expect our kids to make some sort of declaration around the age of 18 - what they want to study, what they want to do with their lives...when looking back at my life I can say there have been easily half-a-dozen different directions I have been drawn in, things that have sort of morphed into other things...I can't imagine an entire life spent doing ONE THING! I love too many things...

  3. Great post, Bettye! And we're all glad that you are you. Not only are you one of the most fun people I've ever "read", that youthful attitude is what spots the cool vintage clothes you always manage to find. Most soccer mom types just don't get it. Don't change.

  4. I am considerably older as well and am consumed by dolls, Barbie in particular. You should see the looks and comments that can bring! I am also an empty nester that is finally coming to grips with that. My interests are very similar to yours (I have an alter ego in the higher end Barbie dolls to live out my fashion fantasies). We are as old (or young) as we are in our minds.

  5. What a wonderful post.. and I love your photo! You are SO CUTE!

  6. I'm still trying to find my way though the Slough of Despond. Guess I better quit reading John Bunyan. That muffin really looks good. Blessings!

  7. You are a beautiful SINGLE woman! Take that 'D' word out of your vocabulary...I promise it will make all the difference in the world!
    Did you read EAT PRAY LOVE ?
    Read it again.'s time to cross over.
    Life is good.
    The best is yet to come.
    "There will come a time when you think everything is finished...that will be the beginning."